Dearly beloved, we have been collected right here right now to complete this thing called⦠a period finale! Yes, it is genuine, today’s occurrence represents the conclusion the absolute smash hit which was S2 of
Wait, So Is This A Date?
And commemorate that stopping, whom more straightforward to think about it and talk about the joys and successes of a long distance crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You could recognize Elise from life’s wonderful queer xmas rom-com that come aside just last year,
According To The Christmas Time Tree
,
but around these components, this lady has another title which nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girl! Yes, that’s right, this sparkling twosome was actually birthed from great queer tradition: the long distance crush.
But what could it possibly be regarding the long-distance crush this is certainly therefore attracting queers around the world? Could it possibly be the relative scarcity of like minded queers around you? probably the ability to flirt long distance takes a number of the force off? The 3 of us go into the whole thing, AND Drew and Elise share some potentially TOO adorable details about their connection!
As well as there is a game title! Recently, I make Drew have fun with the game that merely got over Twitter and Tiktok for a few momentary weeks: “They may be a 10 but⦔ It really is a very good time, around!
SHOW RECORDS
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!
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Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ View
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nonetheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs are⦠undoubtedly rather powerful!
+ may Shortz is in fact title of NYT Crossword publisher!
*the much more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: immediately after which we got from the phone, immediately after which we both hopped throughout the telephone two seconds later on we are like, “therefore the line is actually shut, the audience is legally banned to actually get over the line.”
Christina
: I mean, leading among certainly one of the best sound memos and even texts I got from Drew, i cannot bear in mind which form it came in, it was love, “I made this plan and from now on the borders are shut.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it was a proper minute.
[theme track plays]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And That I’m Christina.
Drew
: And thank you for visiting
Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?
Christina
:
Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast brought to you by me personally obtaining the giggles, and the concern definitely on every person’s mouth, hold off, was actually this a night out together?
Drew
: We’re after our very own next period, and I think we resolved it, I think.
Christina
: Yeah, In my opinion I’m merely getting huge finale fuel, like when comedies had previously been before a business market, and everyone would walk in and there ended up being an hour of applause because it was actually like, it’s the last, which is how I’m experiencing. Though are clear, nobody has applauded myself but, hateful. Thank-you, many thanks. Today I believe loved and used. Drew, that you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this part.
Christina
: Yeah, right?
Drew:
Possibly season three I’ll obtain the intros. My name is Drew Gregory, i will be a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans girl. Do you know what, i do believe when we do another period I want to have a fun one we throw in towards the end.
Christina
: Ooh, one thing spicy, you want to jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t any such thing today though.
Christina
: Okay, leave all of them desiring more, In my opinion that is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: i’m Christina Tucker, Im in addition a writer at Autostraddle, and also the internet most importantly. A podcaster, a authentic gay black lady, and somebody who’s feeling quite flashy right here on this subject afternoon.
Drew
: Great, I’m really grateful that you’re flashy and I’m spicy, or perhaps i am planning for the chance that sooner or later i will be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I’m not sure, the most important 50 % of the film Dune, the spice can come. Cool research, females, she actually is unmarried. In any event, i really do have a game for people to experience with this hollowed day’s the finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This Is Actually The classic, and by traditional I mean a game that annexed the internet and TikTok for two to three weeks, “They Can Be a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: today Drew, i will lay out some floor guidelines for your needs, because I know you adore a follow up concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I say they are a 10, they may be a 10 to you in any way that counts to you personally, that may be literally, which can be mentally, this is simply an individual you think is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, fine, thank you.
Christina
: i really do not have any circumstances for what else you contained in this person have been performing within dating life, you are only gonna need to go along with your abdomen and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: fine?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to place where make that clear, here we go. They’re a 10, nevertheless they clap if the airplane places.
Drew
: i usually decided citizens were too dramatic with this specific, where it is like they can be a 10 hence thing makes them go to a two, come-on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: So I’m likely to however offer a fairly ample eight.
Christina
: Yeah, I think that’s reasonable. In my opinion eight will be the proper level of cringe removing for that little motion. Okay, this might be a great begin. Okay, they’re a nine nevertheless they never ever text you first.
Drew
: and that I are unable to ask follow-up questions?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: and so i are unable to ask, really perform they content myself when we text? I would say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting first previously, that’s rough.
Drew
: actually is actually odd.
Christina
: That’s rough material. Fine, they might be a five however they drive one every errand that you have ever had to perform.
Drew
: That’s great, but I could constantly⦠If there have been five, I’ll give him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i understand you adore an unicamente jaunt anyway, you adore an errand run.
Drew
:I mean today my gf Elise did drive me to an errand, and that I had been very thankful, however, if which was the thing she did we’dn’t maintain a relationship, that has been only an additional very little wonderful extra.
Christina
: i believe which is reasonable.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: fine, these are generally a seven nonetheless they only pretend to read your projects.
Drew
: start to see the aspect of that that bothers me may be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we understood it might be.
Drew
: It isn’t really the maybe not reading it. If they don’t study my work it really is like, I am not that, I would be some, it’s like never ever? But it is good, I could conquer it. However they sit in my experience about that is exactly what’s weird if you ask me, making sure thatshould drop to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, correct, proper. They are a three nonetheless they get access to the criterion dresser.
Drew
: And perform I get one get?
Christina
: therefore get accessibility, you take advantage of that access, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have a solid affair with this six.
Christina
: I think you can. It absolutely was a three, but yeah, you are slamming it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what I’m saying, i am knocking it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They may be an eight but all their buddies tend to be directly.
Drew
: Okay, there was some discussion about any of it, because i do believe there is a you’ll need help. In my opinion We maybe was about opposite side of all in the Autostraddle team exactly who said that it is good to only have straight buddies. I would like to declare that it’s great, it’s simply perhaps not living I lead. All directly buddies, that will head to a two.
Christina
: Yeah, i will have to accept you thereon one, I would personally merely find it slightly unpleasant, confusing.
Drew
: All straight friends?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re fresh to queerness and therefore are wanting to meet a lot more queer men and women, that’s unique of if they are a well accredited period queer that is love, guess what happens? I love being the only lesbian within my buddy set of directly people.
Christina
: Yeah, I would personally have the same manner when it ended up being a Black individual who was actually like, “There isn’t any dark friends,” I would personally end up like, “what’s happening there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a network sitcom, we cannot have a token individual.
Christina
: you should not become token, you don’t have to do that to yourself. Fine, we three a lot more. These are typically a seven but they spend all their particular time in the gym, continuously weight lifting along. I don’t know what individuals do at the gym.
Drew
: all their free-time. I assume it all depends about what counts as free time. I’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: But that’s okay. I suppose it depends mainly personally, which I’m maybe not inquiring a take question, i am staying with five, but it is dependent in my opinion what counts as free time.
Christina
: Certain.
Drew
: are we able to watch motion pictures together, or go out for eating, is that free-time? Is not operate time sparetime, or is it simply like as soon as we don’t have alternative activities?
Christina
: we hear you, we hear you.
Drew
: But we’ll stay with five.
Christina
: All right. They may be six, but their mom is actually sexier than these are typically.
Drew
: Oh, I’m not sure to move up or down.
Christina
: I know, appropriate?
Drew
: I really don’t believe i possibly could actually ever date someone for their⦠It really is like if I’m perhaps not interested in somebody to begin with, i am not likely going to be matchmaking them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I am not probably going to be like, really, they may turn into their hot mother. I think I would claim that they can be nevertheless a six, i am only planning to perhaps not call them and I’m browsing call their particular mommy.
Christina
: Yeah, personally i think adore it’s as you remain the exact same, but possibly we hang out with you somewhat more than I would in order-
Drew
: That’s an excellent point.
Christina
: receive some mother time. I really don’t believe you alter.
Drew
: i did so one thing actually bad that I however feel severely in regards to, in fact it is that someone asked myself out, and also this was actually as I was at university, and I also wasn’t interested, and so I was actually obvious about this, I found myself clear I becamen’t curious. However she wanted to be buddies, and I could tell that she mentioned she wished to be pals nonetheless it had been coming from location-
Christina
: She had been wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. Although thing is each of the woman pals happened to be really hot and cool, I really performed always been her buddy being spend time together with her buddies. I didn’t lay about my objectives normally, nonetheless it nevertheless wasn’t the best thing Used to do as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: What i’m saying is regrettably it just reminds myself of that bout of
Sex additionally the City
where Carrie’s relationship, I think it is Justin Theroux, and then he sucks, but his family members stones, and she actually is like, I am able to do that for somewhat. I’m like, yeah, absolutely, who could not.
Drew
: Carrie was not trying to get together together with family members, the distinction, however know what? It’s great, we’re all good.
Christina
: A hookup will appear like anything, i am always proclaiming that.
Drew
: That’s a truly fantastic point.
Christina
: the last one, is actually a three but has a beach residence.
Drew
: I’m about to state an annoying phrase, but I decided to go to NYU.
Christina
: awful to express.
Drew
: something which sucks about myself, which this might be planning to appear to be a modest brag, because it’s actually most likely an excellent personality trait, but it sucks as people going through the world. I went to a college that is full of wealthy individuals who have all kinds of amazing beach houses, and all these other stuff, and that I merely became friends with others have been indeed there on scholarships. Not simply, but mainly, I definitely, i did not make friends with individuals that has beach homes.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t make use of.
Drew
: Yeah, therefore I think if they’re a three nonetheless have a coastline house, they can be most likely a-two. The actual fact⦠I don’t know.
Christina
: Yeah, you simply are unable to create that step to work with the ill coastline household second.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m really wanting is that my buddies who will be rather down to earth, great people, more of these are simply attending continue steadily to get that brand-new money and then get beach residences, following I’ll be capable go out using my fantastic friends and start to become at a beach home. That is the fantasy where i really could obtain the beach home.
Christina
: that is the dream after the afternoon, its brand new cash and a coastline house, which is all we are interested in. You heard it here initially individuals.
Drew
: I adore brand new cash.
Christina
: Love brand new cash.
Drew
: Love brand new cash. Yeah, which was a delight. I’d actually, I would actually been attempting to perform that video game because it had been a thing on TikTok, very thanks for making my dreams be realized.
Christina
: I imagined it will be a fun one to perform, and it also ended up being really enjoyable to create all of them.
Drew
: Well, should we proceed to our very own primary sector with the week, that’s dropping for those who inhabit additional locations. And that is diverse from long distance interactions, because long distance interactions can start well into a connection, they are able to continue on into a commitment, here is the desire that queer people have to examine their own destination they live and get, no, I’m not gonna flirt with your folks, I’m going to carry on instagram.com in order to find a person who lives extremely far away. And now we have actually a, i understand we usually say a tremendously unique visitor, however for me this really is a rather special visitor. Want to present your self?
Elise
: i’d want to introduce myself personally. Was we the special visitor?
Drew
: you happen to be, yes.
Christina
: Baby, obviously.
Elise
: Great, wow, amazing. My name is Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, i am a queer individual, and I also’m right here today because I’m resting with one of many hosts.
Christina
: imagine which one?
Elise
: Yeah, the remainder podcast is only the audience attempting decipher which variety I’m sleeping with. I really like that, its like a murder mystery but-
Christina
: There’s no option to understand.
Elise
: There’s no solution to know. Yeah, performs this generate me a nepotism child? Usually the way the business works.
Christina
: Yes, that is how the business works, girl.
Elise
: amazing, nice.
Christina
: this will be it.
Elise
: Wow, possibly i possibly could get a vocation using this.
Christina
: Fingers crossed obtainable.
Elise
: Nepo baby to career, wow, great. I always planned to end up being a nepo infant.
Christina
: I’m very grateful.
Drew
: Yeah, I became only probably say that for folks who do not know, well now I am damaging the murder mystery from it all, but Elise and I also have a commitment, and performed begin relationship throughout the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and that I live-in L. A., which have been in fact various locations, and therefore are in fact in various countries.
Elise
: they have been without a doubt, they have been without a doubt.
Christina
: And Drew, not to say that you moved against your own instinct, but i actually do feel as though you might be often a person who states, why bother with a lengthy length moment? You’ll find people here I can date, so why do this to yourself? You understand it will be tough, you understand it’s going to be challenging, so why do this? But here you will be.
Drew
: See, which is interesting, because i’m like i usually liked to own a little of both, i recently believe i did not take the long-distance types possibly because seriously.
Christina
: possibly that’s all, yeah.
Drew
: But i liked a lengthy distance flirt.
Christina
: Real.
Drew
: therefore i believe this simply held going. Once we began-
Elise
: Therefore, the solution, Drew, wasn’t that I happened to be merely irresistible plus it was private in my experience, and this was actually very certain if you ask me that I happened to be simply amazingly irresistible and that means you simply broke your entire guidelines therefore stated, “I have to have this 1.”
Drew
: after all its kind of the answer in a longer sense. In the same way it simply held going on. Immediately after which the close friends of pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, whom I used to accept, as some people may know, i might be like, I’d end up being wanting to date men and women during pandemic in la and also the encompassing aspects of l . a .. And they’d make enjoyable of myself because I would occasionally just be similar, “I mean, i really could just make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I happened to be usually, “What i’m saying is, {this person|this i
